Thanks for all the support guys.
xyz, I'm pretty good at reading when she's about to be physical after 11 years. I know when to back off and will not push her now as I know it wont take much. I have a coffee shop close by if I REALLY need to escape, and my parents are back in town on thursday.
We haven't fought today, which is good. She was actually severely attacked by one of our cats Sunday night and since then she can't do much with one of her hands, so is somewhat dependant on me... found out today her hand's infected too *roll eyes* so yay... less she can do. But we did get all the running around done that needed to be fairly peacefully today.
"Thou art to me a delicious torment." - Ralph Waldo Emerson