Yes,..Fear mongering alone, can stop people.
When you have kids, many times you feel, that even a 0.5 % chance of being found out, is to high a stake.
For me, I love the community I live in. So many positives. It would be a tough call, to come out in such a conservative place. For now, the benefits of staying quiet, outweigh anything else.
Though I am starting to wonder about being more open around family and vanilla friends. It all ties into each other, so it can be hard to negotiate.
Time has a way of taking care of these things.
Sorry for going off topic LR.