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Old 09-28-2010, 03:25 AM
Guipoly Guipoly is offline
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Location: Toronto, Ontario
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I am married; but fell in love with another woman (a coworker). It was love at first sight. My wife and I went through a hard time where we almost divorced. I am in love with both of them. After months talking about how she (my wife) and I felt, she indicated that if it was going to make me happy, to open our marriage to allow me to spend time with my other love. My wife has indicated that she is fine with me being poly, but she does not have a probmes with it provided that I did not expose myself or her to deceases.

My wife and I discussed sharing my time between the two of them, and making sure that her as well as my other love were treated equally. I spend some time every day at work with my other love (that my wife and I called "the twin"). It is magic. We have not implement any time sharing because one of my twin's grown daughters finished university and went back to leave with her. My twin has had some rough time with her daughters and feel that it is not the moment to reveal our closeness to them. It is a matter of time; but she is waiting for the right time. I am not in a rush either, I intent to spend the rest of my life with my two loves.

My wife has indicated that she accepts that I am poly; but the she will remain monogamous. I talk to both of them all the time about each other. I may overdo by constantly referring about the twin to my wife; but I believe it is because I spend more time with my wife that with the twin (twin because I really believe that she is my twin soul and my wife my soul mate - there is a huge difference)

She has indicated that she is not ready to meet the twin, as she will feel ackward. I believe that meeting each other should be when they are feel they are ready. I really hope that they become friends.

I will really appreciate any feedback on how to plan my time, on how to smooth when they meet, on how we can open up (come out of the closet) about me being poly and my relation with both of them , both women having me as their partner/husband; and what I can do to be a better husband to both of them.

I have said that I am open with them having other partners; but they have indicated that they are happy being monogamous; but I maintain an open mind.
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