Having been to some swingers events at the beginning of our journey towards poly (we very quickly realized that we weren't swingers) I did feel that it was a very predatory environment. I'm not interested in been leered at by men that see me as little more than a body. Also it's a little disturbing that swingers groups tend to accept single women but keep single men out.
Looks like there's all kinds of judgment about swingers between the 2 of us Mono. Not everyone at swingers events are the same way but there is a most definite vibe and culture that doesn't sit well with me. (who knows maybe events elsewhere are full of respect, that just wasn't my experience here).
Everything will be ok in the end. If it's not ok it's not the end.