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Old 09-26-2010, 09:33 PM
AutumnalTone AutumnalTone is offline
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Originally Posted by DragonPie View Post
...I was very nervous, but she sounded calm. She didn't sound like it would be a problem at all. She told me that I didn't need to be nervous and we'd talk about it and I was pretty excited about it.
...but one of them seemed to be that she felt like she didn't want to inject drama into my life.
Another feeling that she mentioned was not being sure if she wanted to share me and feeling guilty about that feeling.
So she's processing her feelings. What's the problem?

She could just live in the now and enjoy the times that we spent together and I could do that too. But I wanted to talk about things because I wanted to have boundaries that I wouldn't cross.
Why are you trying to make things more difficult than they are?
When speaking of various forms of ain't poly if you're just fucking around.

While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.
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