Whew! I'm glad you took my reply well....I was hoping not to come off as some know it all.....
My worrisome side is concerned with you being the "4th wife".....obviously this guy has issues...... or......... he's always been poly in a mono society, lol.
I live in a town populated by wealthy guys who've averaged 4-5 wives. I don't want to appear critical of my fellow menfolk but somehow, I don't think they're all poly!