Maybe meeting the men that they think are going to be keepers would help. Have you tried that? Sometimes the idea of someone else is bigger in our heads than reality. Meeting someone can dispell the myths that are created about them being a threat. We get to see why our partner would like them and all the things about them that are nontheatening and possibly lovable about them. Sometimes common interests arise that can make them even friendworthy. Things seem to run more smoothly when there is a relationship of some kind between metamours.
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