Rag will say more when he's back from work tomorrow, but he's just called to tell me he came out to J and another coworker as poly.
His other coworker took it very well, J was apparently very surprised and said the usual "I couldn't do it but good for you".
He mentioned that I have a boyfriend, Sean and that he liked someone who didn't seem interested... J herself told him he should confess his feelings to that person, etc...
She genuinely doesn't seem to know he likes her. It's rather weird, it kept feeling like she was sending hints his way... No wonder he was so confused.
I don't think it's all lost but I can imagine the worry that he'd tell her he likes her and she would back up from their friendship or something... I guess we'll know more when he's home.