Indigo has pointed out to me that many people he's told about our poly assume that as the male half of our couple, he
initiated it. This is not the case.
So, in the interest of science, who started it in your relationship, if it wasn't already in place?
ETA: I've realized I have excluded anyone who came into a tribe/established couple. Please place your vote in "We were both Poly." or of course, "I hate polls."
Advance apologies to the other poly configs I am sure I've excluded .. *facepalm*