This is interesting. I've never had this issue w my gf. When I get home from a date w someone else, I generally tell her most of the details about it. She doesnt press me for details much, just lets me tell her what I feel comfortable telling her. And the ppl I date have never asked me to keep anything secret from her.
I know, in some D/s relationships, the Master/Mistress and His/Her sub have a contract that the sub may not keep anything private from their Master. Some are required to even keep a journal that the Master can read every night. This is seen as for the good of the sub's own personal development, since s/he has agreed the Master has her own best interests at heart. It's a kind of deep intimacy. Any other lovers the sub has, would of course be informed of the agreement ahead of time.
Now, is the Master required to be as transparent as his sub? Not so much.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
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