Originally Posted by redpepper
Smooth sailing is just not how it goes.
Even when you're actually sailing
. Truth is, sailing is probably a really good analogy for relationships. The guy at the helm is constantly fighting the current and the wind, having to make adjustments. When the guy at the helm makes adjustments the guys on the sails need to match them. If it doesn't happen just right, every thing goes to sh*~ really fast. If the team can't communicate to get the problem fixed, things go from bad to worse. Smooth sailing last just about long enough to get something to eat and go to the bathroom. Occationally you loose all wind and go absolutely nowhere.
If you ever want an adrenaline rush, find the local yacht club and hitch a ride on a race boat (usually Sat morning). The whole thing is a lesson in controlled chaos, disaster recovery and chicken.
I agree with RP, ask straight out. Assumptions are a killer.