I agree with privacy in relationships. I have tried the transparent route and it lead to hardship, more jealousy and lack of specialness and made me alter my actions to suite what I had to say afterward.. of course the private route is iffy and needs boundaries. It can lead to a bigger blast of NRE too. Keeping those little thrills secret means they develop a life of their own and start changing stuff in other relationships. I have had to fess up a couple of times to why I want to change things up with a partner because of another partner and my private stuff... tricky.
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