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Old 09-20-2010, 07:29 PM
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I talk about everything. So for me it would mean being honest and open about all that is going on... including how it makes me feel and what I would like to see happen.

When I have done this in the past I have found that the emotions die down quickly, no new ones arise and things are dealt with quickly. It's game playing to hang around waiting for it all to sort itself out. I don't like playing games. I like to call a spade a spade and have it out.

Sure, I'm not always right and I have my own shit to deal with in the situation also, but I know that when I open my mouth and it keeps me authentic. I like to think anyone that challenges me gets the real me and anyone I challenge in return knows that is what I expect back.

This is the only part of poly that I think needs to be dealt with right away... poly should be taken slowly all but the communication, that should be in the moment and dealt with quickly and well. At least that is what I have found works best.
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