OK. I just realized that a lot of this wisdom typically comes with age. So, maybe the best advice is to simply "hang in there." Age, experience, and confidence will help more than logic, sharing of experience, and cajoling ever could.
Call me slow.
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“Instead of getting better and better at avoiding, learn to accept the present moment as if you had invited it. And work with it instead of against it. And making it your ally rather than your enemy.”