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Old 09-19-2010, 10:07 PM
missred89 missred89 is offline
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Hi all,
Sorry if this topic has already been covered!
So I just need some advice I guess..I have been with my girlfriend for just over a year & I know she's 'the one'. The other day she came out to me as being poly. She said it's something she's been struggling over all summer & that she was terrified of telling me in case it's too much & I finish with her.

I just don't know what to do. I don't have a problem with her being poly, but it's something I'm finding hard to accept into my own relationship. She's explained it to me and I can see her thinking behind it, but as I told her I would still be absolutley gutted if she was with someone else, and I would consider it cheating.
I can't not be with her...she's my everything, but at the same time I don't know how I can accept this, or how long it's going to take me to get used to it.

I don't know if I'm explaining this very well, but it's because I am literally in two minds about it and I keep flitting between different thoughts about this so it's so hard to make any sense of it!
Basically I would do anything for her and I want so much to be able to accept this because it's part of her, but at the same time I just can't help but think why am I not enough?! She's said that it's the physical intimacy she wants from other people and that it wouldn't even come close to the type of relationship we have. But then that makes me think why can't she just wait until I'm with her (we live apart as she is at uni & i had to move back home).

I just want to know if anyone's been in a similar situation - either from my point of view or from the same point of view as my gf. Sorry for the slightly confused post and sorry again if this has been covered already or is in the wrong place...if it is I'll remove it! Thanks in advance for any advice.
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