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Old 09-19-2010, 06:41 PM
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My guess? Because sex is a more discrete boundary. Emotional fidelity is much harder to break out - what's the difference between close friends and something else all together.

I have a very close friend that's close enough to threaten other women when I was "pretending" to be mono (that's how I'm currently describing my pre-poly world). We have never had sex, never kissed, and never had a girlfriend/boyfriend type relationship. But, it is still hard not to describe our dynamic as less than romantic, deep loving connection. If you took a film of us at a restaurant, you would believe we were sleeping together. But, it's still hard to assess when a relationship passes from friendly to an emotional entanglement that violates the typical restraints in a mono or poly-fidelity arrangement.

Sex is a big bright line that is much easier to describe the boundaries.

My 2 cents.
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