Originally Posted by vodkafan
I just wondered how others on here saw themselves and what they called themselves.
My wife is one of my lovers, so I don't really see anything lesser about the term "lover" than any other. Indeed, "wife" is a legal term, as I see it--a job title, if you will, and nothing more.
Any lover I have other than my wife I think of as an "amorata." If folks can't figure out what that is, then "girlfriend" works as well.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.