Originally Posted by Amethyst
The first thing I did when I realized I was attracted to my lover and explained to him what Polyamory was. He said that he didn't care, he just didn't want to know about it. .
So your husband is ok with a don't ask don't tell policy. That can work for some I am sure.
You say you live as brother and sister though. Sounds like you don't have a husband at all...why stay with him?
Also, if your boyfriend hasn't ever been married, does he not want more out of a relationship than you might be able to give if you do stay married? Does he have other partners as well?
Sorry to ask so many questions
I'm trying to figure out if your actually poly or have just fallen out of love with one man and into love with another. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. It's just worth recognizing if it is the case