The first thing I did when I realized I was attracted to my lover and explained to him what Polyamory was. He said that he didn't care, he just didn't want to know about it. I had surgery and lost a large amount of weight, he didn't like me thin. From that day forward he wouldn't show me any intimacy, kisses hugs and never sex. Our MD told him he had a low testosterone and refused the treatment for it. We live together more as brother and sister. We haven't had sex for 7-10 years.
My BF isn't married, we knew at a glance we were attracted. We felt like soulmates. We've only has sex once thus far. He makes me feel loved. We belong to a "Sacred Sex" Polyamorphic group.