I think that if a loving, intimate, group of people want to call themselves poly then so be it. It is a matter of what they all want to call themselves. It is more a definition of what romance is.
I have a close friend that I would love to say I am in a poly relationship with, but she would hit the roof. I do things with her that could be seen as romantic.... cuddling, sleeping together in a spoon.... yet for her it is a friendship with intimate bits. I don't let myself go to that romantic place, yet I love her immensely.
stuck on this one now.
What is the difference then between a romantic relationship, an intimate friendship that involves sex?