Not long after my relationship started, there was an issue with another of his women/lovers. He told me he thinks of me as a partner, not just a lover. He's since had me added to his doctor's list of people that can call & get info, but on those forms, I'm listed as "friend" -- his wife is listed as wife. When they got married, they had a poly ceremony -- 3 couples were there to represent Lovers Past, Lovers Present & Lovers Future. So he said I was already there & when we went on vacation a few months ago, he bought me a ring to symbolize our love, our partnership. I will always respect his wife as primary & know my place with her. I just wish society would recognize us & accept us more than a cheap affair!!
New to this wonderful world of polyamory - I must be crazy - never happier!!!