Ok, I get it... it looks like such a no-brainer now that the story is written down and I've come back to look at it again, lol.
But lest someone take the bowling idea literally, it would surely be bf #1's last and final complete mortification to lose to bf #2 at bowling too! Besides the logistical detail that the other woman is away at work about a thousand miles away, lol.
But yes, message received. Thanks!
Of course, I'm still open to any other input.