Welcome VFAN! Hopefully you aren't needing too much vodka to get through some of this heartache! You seem to be very open to trying different methodologies to work through issues and problems, and your marriage will be stronger for it. Hope your wife is working as hard. Feel bad that you were bashed and insulted on another forum. You will find sympathetic ears and advice on both sides of the fence. Good job LMBL on the suggestion!