Mono- I think you and I are talking different types of asexuality. Even during my asexual moods, I still enjoyed and wanted the affection, cuddling, kissing, etc. Just not the step further into sexual intimacy. Kinda like "hug and kiss me all you like and I'll eat it up, but my vagina neither needs nor wants your attention tyvm".
JRiver- I'm lacking cuddly friendships myself. I had soooo many when I was younger. But we all grew up and that innocent affection seems to have fallen away with time.
I miss it more than I miss having a female partner many days.