Thank you both ... We're working slowly, not letting this affect snuggle times and making sure we both know we love the other. Sex seems to be off the table for the next while, until I can get my anxiety under control. This is actually a huge relief, because we can still be physically intimate, without me worrying that I'm "expected" to carry through. (He's never, EVER put this demand on me before; it's just my anxiety.)
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