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Old 09-08-2010, 05:50 AM
dragonflysky dragonflysky is offline
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Gary Chapman discusses this sort of thing in his book "The Five Love Languages". How we experience "love" can vary from person to person, just as you've noted. Rather than "manipulation" I look at it in terms of giving a "gift" to someone. When I select a gift for someone else, I get them something I know they want....something that has meaning for them. It's not necessarily something I'd want or something that has meaning for me. So, we give our lovers a "gift" when we express our love for them in a way that has meaning for them. For me, manipulation would be if I gave someone a gift I knew they'd like because I wanted/expected something from them in return.
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