Thanks Derbylicious. Thats what I understand about the hsv thing too - I even have a friend who is a doctor and has a girlfriend with hsv because he is confident that the risks are really low if the person is on medication, knows their body and protection is always used.
I think we will just take it slow for now and see if we are sure we even want to pursue a relationship. Sadly, sex will probably be out for a while cause I need to think about this as I re-enter my life and start dating again. Its just a bummer that adds a serious extra complication to something that is already pretty complicated.