My first thought is don't do anything that you're not completely comfortable doing. Apart from that it sounds like you both have good heads on your shoulders. You're using condoms, getting tested and she is aware of her body. From what I understand of hsv people with it tend to know they're going to have a breakout before it happens and can avoid contact with others until they're healed.
Everything will be ok in the end. If it's not ok it's not the end.