Originally Posted by TruckerPete
No, that's helpful in itself, to not feel like a freak!
Does it become more ... natural? It felt so wrong
this morning. I mean, I knew he would feel the hug in the same way that I felt the thank you, but it felt
like I was being manipulative or something.
Quite frankly, it's a big old trigger for a couple of painful things from my past.
*sigh* More self work ...
It does get easier. My personal space boundary used to be about 3 miles across, but I'm getting better. I've really worked on making this smaller and being more physical (not with everyone, I'm happy with a generous personal space boundary for everyone except a trusted few) with my partner. And...it gets easier. I now find it comes naturally most of the time, and I enjoy it more too
I've been through some sh*t myself (I'm not funny about personal space for nothing!) so if you want to chat/hear my experiences just ask