Originally Posted by Ariakas
Most poly people I have met now are already non-monogamous....
Every poly person I've met has been non-monogamous!
And most I've met have not done any swinging. To be precise, they haven't mentioned any, and I imagine openly poly folk aren't going to be in the closet about other non-monogamous things. There may be some few who would admit to one and not the other, though I can't say as I'm aware of any.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.