I can only agree with everyone here. I'm new to actually being in a poly relationship but have been learning about it for years. The one thing I love about it is all parties being transparent & the love involved. I'm sorry, hun, but I don't see any of this from your husband. I agree with others, he got caught so he's using poly to cover his guilt.
As jennjuice stated -- it's not how we feel that matters -- how do you feel about him -- your marriage?
New to this wonderful world of polyamory - I must be crazy - never happier!!!