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by the way, what you have is not poly... have a read around, as someone suggested. Poly is about respect, caring, compassion, and open, honest communication.

I hadn't realized you have kids. I think, as a mother myself, you owe it too your kids to show them what it means to be a strong woman as much as yourself. I can't say I would change anything i have just posted other than perhaps the fact that you should live with roommates. Unless you can find roommates that will fit the kid life.