OMG FitChick, that is totally what I need to do! Thank you so much for the suggestion! I was all up in knots that night and had all sorts of thoughts, but mostly negative, because he wasn't talking with me
He explained later that it was due to him shutting off his phone because he had some of his soldiers texting him and he just wanted a night with his wife. I just explained that if he does that, to let me know so I am not wondering wth is going on. He apologized and I think he realizes how rough it is for me because he says he really does care about my feelings and hopes I can talk to him about them. Communication is def key in this type of relationship or things can really go south!