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Old 08-27-2010, 02:11 PM
Ilove2men Ilove2men is offline
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I don't think you are expecting to much. What are your expectations? To be safe and happy. This is why I don't like the idea of not meeting her. If she's going to sleep with your husband you deserve to lay out your concerns and speak to her about them and it's total bull about it being only the guys fault about the dishonesty. She is proving that in some way she is benefitting from these wives not knowing, by not wanting to meet you. She needs to learn a new way to get whatever that need is met without putting other people's lives and relationships at risk. There are pluses to being the mistress. She gets all the romance without real life responsibility, attatchment, and stress. Also, there is always a rush from something being taboo or naughty. These are all things that can be achieved in an honest way through poly by speaking openly about what one wishes the dynamic to be.
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