Same here, same here. I had the same epiphany just today. After reading your post, sarahmaru, I realized more about what I'm feeling right now (thanks!). That could-continue-with-people-you-used-to-love-thing. Yeah. I think I could just start again with an ex-boyfriend whom I'm still attracted to and still continue in this mono relationship that I'm in. It feels SO weird but polyamory helps to understand it. I guess we're both in similar situations. I'm glad there's people who have gone through this and who can help.