I've always been attracted to androgynes. From when I first sexually awoke, I fell in love with the early Beatles... I was 8. They were seen as dangerously girlish back then.
Later, it was David Bowie, the cast of Rocky Horror, Andy Warhol's cast of Superstars, etc etc.
Johnny Depp, Eddie Izzard, Rudolph Valentino, the dancer Vaslav Nijinski, all these girly men made my heart flutter and my nethers twitch.
I was never really attracted to drag queens, but then, they are gay men. There's a bit of a divide there.
I ID as gender fluid on FL, b/c I can be quite femme sometimes, but have strong masculine qualities as well. Speaking from a gender-binary understanding, of course.
I guess you've already answered your own first question, Superjast, that's just how it happened for me.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
There's no lying in polyamory!
I'm a 58 year old woman with 2 partners:
miss pixi, my live-in gf, 36 (together since Jan '09)
Ginger, bf, 61, married, lives nearby (together since Jan '12)