This is a few days late, but your post about Tonberry's insights into your situation really helped me understand. It makes so much sense now, you couldn't be sure you really owned your own sexuality, really felt whole
, if you never left the safe zone of your relationship with DW.
I suppose it might take some time to really absorb that confidence, til you can feel it (The Matrix
quote-alert) "balls to bones".
Anyhow, its such an amazing journey you two are going through, thanks for sharing.