I was amazed at how the trust issues melted into oblivion once we both laid it all out on the table.
Speaking to my husband about poly also aided in the following:
Increased energy and sex drive
Creative problem solving
Taking our turns at cleaning up nervous poos from our puppy, Duck the German Shepard....
A host of other things, and it's only been a short time, and we have yet to make a real move.
Crow, I think this is the best thing that's ever happened to he and I- really - not our wedding day, not his most beautiful bajno-pickin night - this. This because we never knew each other so intimately in the 5 yrs we've been together, and he and I, like everyone, have fought tooth and nail for those years, shared so much, learned so much---
And now we are finally getting naked with each other.
My cheating last fall was a catalyst for all of this, and I believe it to have all come together quite naturally when I think about it- now that I thankfully Do think about it.
If we hadn't worked together to mend those wounds, together, and all of those that came before, we'd never have gotten here.
Maybe Damncatfish will care to comment?