I was talking to one of my male lovers yesterday and he said something about a serious relationship is about sacrifice and compromize. I found myself saying this to him. "I don't want to be in any relationship which requires either of the partners to have to sacrifice something of themselves on behalf of the relationship. I desire relationships in which both partners are able to say "no" to somthing they are not interested in because it requires a sacrifice or compromise that they are not comfortable with. At each encounter, the partners are together because they desire to be together in that moment. And if, for some reason, one or both partners are no longer enjoying their time together.....for god's sake, get some space and come back when you have a desire for your partner again.....but that's just me.
The key to life is in being fully engaged and peacefully detached simultaneously and authentically in each moment.