yep i know how you feel. My partner's OSO is 10 years older than me (14 years older than him) and so different from him that I feel no real threat. I think it would be very different if she was younger, hotter and funner
. But I'm only in polyamory kindergarten, if and when someone more challenging comes into his life, hopefully I'll be ready for her.
Interesting way of dealing with jealousy though. Very creative.