thanks Breathes... oh you are so good to me
I think you hit the nail on the head when you said he needs to grieve. I think he does and I think he is getting there. He has come back happy today from visiting his Dad... happy and we have a fridge full of farm veg!
finding something I know he loves to do is not an option. I don't mean to sound callouse, just that I ALWAYS do that. Every restaurant, movie, date night we have is what he wants. He's picky and things have to be just right for him to "have a good time." I don't very often do what I want to do or go where I want to go when I am with him.
getting him to think about what I like to do is definitely a better option.
The end of the turmoil is coming and he is seeing the light at the end of the tunnel... there is some glimmer that he is cluing in and some movement forward. thanks for pointing that out.