Originally Posted by jkelly
So the first reason they can come up with for coming out is "This person wants to tell me that they're available."
It's goofy, but I think that's also part of it.
That's perhaps part of it. I've had women think I want to date them after they find out we're poly--and they found out during a *group* conversation involving both women and men. I can't see how they would take that and construe it to be a personal message to themselves, as it could then apply to everybody in the group. Why would they think it's addressed to them and not one of the other people in the group?
Mebbe it's just cuz I'm sooooo sexy that they want it to be a coded message to them!
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.