Originally Posted by disarmlow
I am ok with breaking up with her as a couple but I do not want to anger my SO or hurt her.
Er... you should get to date and live with whoever you want.
Seriously, don't date people just because it makes them, or someone else, happy. Don't live with people just because it makes them, or someone else, happy. Date only those people you're enthusiastic about dating! Live with people you want to live with!
Any other approach is going to lead to drama and heartache.