Anotherbo, thank you for all of your comments. I have a lot to say in response, but I haven't been in the right headspace to do it. I appreciate your input, so please don't hold yourself back. I enjoy comments quite a bit.
I didn't end up talking with Hunter. I've been spending a lot of time just watching him from my new viewpoint... the POV of being able to approach him if I want. And I'm not sure if I do or not. So yeah, I'm definitely going slower. Way slower. I have faith that it will develop naturally if it is something that will be good for the people involved.