Originally Posted by YGirl
I read the question as "how would YOU feel ABOUT the fact that someone asked YOU", not "would you give permission or a recommendation to someone who asked".
There wouldn't be any particular feeling. I'd say I feel it's unnecessary, though that's a belief and not an actual feeling. It'd be like somebody coming up to me and saying "I like drum corps, too!" Cool, we both enjoy drum corps/my wife's company...so what?
I'm not responsible for my wife being the wonderful person she is, so it's not like somebody coming up to me and saying "I really like your art!" In that situation I'd be feeling something, because I am responsible for my art.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.