Originally Posted by marksbabygirl
Do you want to know before hand?
How would you feel if they came up to you (or emailed you or phoned you) and said "BTW, I really like your spouse -and want to get to know him/her - I think that he/she and I have a great connection"
I'm interested in the details of my partners' lif/ves, so I'd "want to know" anything that was on their
mind. I suppose I'm also somewhat curious about what other people think of anyone I'm involved with, but I wouldn't say that I "want to know" if someone else is interested in my partner, beyond that curiosity.
As for the second question, it'd depend on the context. Is this a friend of mine who would normally share with me when they're interested in someone? I can easily imagine other contexts where I'd think it was a faux pas, or even kind of creepy.