Yes I definitely want to know. I hold those I love closely to me. They are apart of my everyday life. I would feel very threatened by anyone who has feelings for my husband or anyone I am dating in terms of what they might cause in our relationship. I would assume that they have all good intentions, but at this point the track record around here is not that great
I would feel very honoured and respected if they came to me about their attraction. I think it shows good intent on getting to know me better and that would be essential if they were to be involved in my life and my tribes life. their presence would mean that they are involved with me too.
Nerdist's boyfriend came to me when they first got together and I was immediately warmed to him by the gesture of good will... I see it as good manners.