Indigomontoya, thanks for your input. You are correct that I have been hard headed, and that people have given me good advice on this thread.
I have continued to be insecure. I have acted inappropriately, and now I'm on thin ice with her, but still in the relationship as of this very day/time.
She does spend more time with her husband, and that is fine with me. When I started this thread back in March I did mention a couple of areas that I felt her husband surpassed me in, but to be honest, I do not feel inferior to him. I have felt inferior to her other boyfriend, and it had/has nothing to do with the amount of time they spend to together. I have felt inferior to him based on other issues.