Originally Posted by YGirl
I don't understand what you mean by this. Are you saying to wait for the spouse to start a new relationship without telling you? How would that not be "cheating" unless you have an open or DADT relationship? Is that what you mean, or do you mean something else?
More along the lines of there is a friendship... and your spouse realizes he or she has more "romantic" feelings and they are both interested in moving in that direction.
Do you want the person who's interested in your spouse to come up to you and say "hey - I realized that I REALLY like your spouse - and I'd like to ask him out on a date - is that ok with you?"