I don't think my husband would make the first move so I would be relieved if that happened. Then I could say to my husband "So-and-so likes you. Maybe you should talk to her about it". I would also be flattered that they had the nerve to approach me like that.
Although this is totally theoretical and I have no idea what my gut-reaction would be if it ever happened to me.
Originally Posted by marksbabygirl
Or would you prefer to wait until the spouse and new amour are in a more solid 'relationship'?
I don't understand what you mean by this. Are you saying to wait for the spouse to start a new relationship without telling you? How would that not be "cheating" unless you have an open or DADT relationship? Is that what you mean, or do you mean something else?